Here are some questions to get you started:
The vows themselves should only take two or three minutes to say to one another. This is a public declaration of your commitment, not a private conversation between the two of you.
Don't embarrass your friends and family with details that are too intimate or lengthy.
Sincerity is key; the words should come from your heart.
Decide whether or not the two of you will recite the same vows or different ones.
Incorporate your wedding guests into your vows by having them respond with their blessings and support.
Discuss your personal vows with your ofﬁciant beforehand.
Read your vows out loud, which is a surprisingly effective way to catch errors, glitches, or awkward phrasing.
Additional thoughts on your commitment to marriage may be expressed in the main body of the ceremony or through the use of special poems and prayers.
Most couples feel that their love is truly unique, a special bond between the two of them that no one else will ever experience in quite the same
way. And of course... they're right!
Writing your own wedding vows can be an intensely moving and intimate way to create a wedding ceremony that truly reﬂects the way you feel about each other. For some ideas, take a look at some of the Custom Wedding Vows that were written by couples I have previously married.
Before you can effectively express your feelings, you'll need to identify them. It's important to talk to each other about your marriage....
Discuss your beliefs, dreams, and expectations. Take notes on this conversation and use it as the foundation for building your own custom made vows. Once you identify the things that are the most important to you, then you can decide how best to express them.